|Jan 08 17
Husbands, It Wasn’t a
By Brad Harrub
Men, how many times has your wife nagged
you in the past week or two? Or better yet, how many times have you felt
neglected in the bedroom? Or maybe she is putting on some pounds as she
ages? Or maybe her cooking leaves a lot to be desired? Ever felt like she
neglects the house or laundry?
I suspect you are not alone. I’ve heard
more than my fair share of complaints from men who are not “happy” or satisfied
in their current marriage. Here’s the deal; the problem is not your wife.
The problem is you! For you see, there is a command in the Bible that most
men overlook or just downplay to make themselves feel more comfortable—a
that can radically change their marriage
and make it so much better.
Paul wrote, “Husbands, love your wives,
just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He
might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that
He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle
or any such thing, but that she should
be holy and without blemish.
So husbands ought to love their own
wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.” (Ephesians
Love your wives, just as Christ also
loved the church. Men this is a command—not a suggestion. The text does
not say “love your wife when she is pleasant” or “love your wife when she
pleases you in the bedroom.” God’s command is to LOVE YOUR WIFE.
The only “condition” He places on this
command is that we are to love our wives like Christ loved the church.
It doesn’t matter if she doesn’t cook your favorite meal or if she has
put on a few pounds. It doesn’t matter if she’s emotional or doesn’t have
the laundry folded. Your command is to love your wife.
Take a moment today and consider what
would happen if Jesus Christ placed “conditions” on His love for the church.
What if Jesus acted like some Christian men
who only show love according to how
they are treated? Or worse, what if Jesus wasn’t happy about the church
and decided the grass might be greener elsewhere?
Friends, here is the truth—before we
mount a campaign to defend God’s institution
against same-sex marriage we would
do well to make sure we are obeying His commands
about how to treat one another. We
should inspect the foundations of our own marriages
and consider the pattern we have been
setting for our children.
Not happy in your marriage? Not satisfied
with your spouse? Believe the grass is greener somewhere else? Maybe you
should spend time watering your own lawn and LOVE YOUR WIFE like God commanded
you, rather than walking away to find someone you think will please your
“needs.” After all, it’s not all about you—it’s about Him. And your unhappiness
might be just where God wants you to bring Him the most glory. Stop focusing
so much on yourself and focus on obeying Him. You might be surprised… your
grass might just turn green right before your eyes.